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Friday, January 21, 2011

I’m 4, I can do what I want!

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Umm… no you can’t!  Oh my!  This little child of mine, I love her to death but I am at my wits end with her!  I know she has been sick and she is doing better, still coughing some and voice not back to normal yet but she does have her energy back.  And an attitude that is just about to kill me!!
No matter what I ask her to do she has to talk back.  I told her the other day I needed to clean up the kitchen so she needed to help and clean up her stuff in the living room.  All she said was, “No, you need to clean!”  Um.. that’s just what I said I was going to do!  And the other day she had one of her little plastic knives and was cutting her play dough and she held up the knife and said, “One of these days I’m gonna cut your A$$!”  Excuse me!?!?!  Where in the world did you hear that?  “No where” she says.  Well, she got sent to her room for that one and then she just bawled and fell asleep.  Once I woke her up I asked her to apologize, and she knew what she did was wrong.  I asked her again where she heard that and she just said, “No where”.  I have NO idea where she got that!  We don’t let her watch shows like that and we haven’t watched anything like that ourselves. 
She has also been cussing a lot lately too.  I don’t cuss so I am not sure where she is getting that from either.  I just don’t know what to do with her!  Time outs don’t work, swats don’t work and being sent to her room doesn’t usually work either and she usually just throws stuff in her room. 
Been praying about it and praying for her because I really don’t know what to do!  No way would I have ever treated my parents the way she does us!  I never figured I would have a child that was so disrespectful and so selfish!!  And it’s not from lack of us trying to teach her right!!
If anyone has some suggestions on some books or anything let me know!!  I’ve been thinking about getting a book called -

Parenting the Strong-Willed Child: The Clinically Proven Five-Week Program for Parents of Two- to Six-Year-Olds

Parenting the Strong-Willed Child: The Clinically Proven Five-Week Program for Parents of Two- to Six-Year-Olds [Revised and Updated Edition] 

 

but will take any suggestions anyone else has too.  Even my mom is stumped!   She just says, “You kids were never like that!”  I KNOW!!  Oh not saying we didn’t test them but that was once… then they let us know who was boss.  Mad just seems to think she is the boss now, especially since she has turned 4, which she kept saying she didn’t want to do.  Now she just says, “I’m 4 I can do anything I want!”  Lord give me strength!!!

6 comments:

mom said...

Good post. Am stumped. Can't hurt to read that book, b
Maybe it will give some in site. Will pray for all of you. Love ya.

Tiggeriffic said...

With Ben being so out of control with his hitting other people the school made up a book for us to read to him.. it was a picture book. showed rough touches and then gentle touches.. There was another book on "How to be a Super Friend".. These were read a lot to him and it really worked..He thought getting a friend to play with him he had to choke him or slap him. Now he knows just a gentle pat on the shoulder is all he needs to do.
Give your gal a choice..found out this helps Ben. getting dressed? lay out 2 sets of clothes ~ let them pick.. getting them to do something.. give 2 choices and kids think it was their idea to do it.. Ben is 4 and he wants to think he is the boss. By giving him 2 choices of anything he choses and thinks it was his idea.
the lanuage? oh my she could of picked that up anywhere. I used to use soap in the mouth for my kids.
that was along time ago.nip it in the bud quick~! ta ta for now from Iowa...

Donnie said...

I raised two boys to manhood and they were always testing the water. That's how they learn. It can be very frustrating. My husband said we used to pick our battles so they knew when we had reached our limit and then they would listen. Really, I think, they listened when dad spoke...lol...Prayer helps to calm you too. Now a days they can get language from a commercial. She is a cutie though.

Leigha said...
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Leigha said...

I was very against using soap in my child's mouth, that was until baby #4 came along and with him brought a slew of naughty words (our house, we don't even say butt!) I was so angry and before I could really think I stuck a bar of soap in his mouth for 3 minutes (he's 3). After his 3 minutes, I took it out, brushed his teeth and honestly, went to my bedroom, closed the door and wept! I couldn't believe I had to stoop to that level of discipline! I called the dr and he just laughed and said yes, it's safe! That was 5 months ago and he hasn't said another naughty word since!!!! I had also sat him down and explained why we do not say things like that, but I guarantee it was the soap and not my words that did the trick! Good Luck in whatever you choose, just be consistent! :) I know my older kids have been hearing words at 1st and 2nd grade and daring little brother to say them, they've had their own discipline, but they hear them from somewhere. Figure out where and stop it as much as you can. It only escalates as they get older :(

Nicole said...

Thank you all for your wonderful comments! I hope you all have a great weekend!

I think I responded to all of you in your email. :)

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