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Friday, October 7, 2011

Keep Your Fork

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There was a young woman who had been diagnosed with a terminal illness and had been given three months to live. So as she was getting her things "in order," she contacted her Priest and had him come to her house to discuss certain aspects of her final wishes.
She told him which songs she wanted sung at the service, what scriptures she would like read, and what outfit she wanted to be buried in.
Everything was in order and the Priest was preparing to leave when the young woman suddenly remembered something very important to her.


"There's one more thing," she said excitedly.

"What' that?" came the Priest's reply.

"This is very important," the young woman continued. "I want to be buried with a fork in my right hand."

The Priest stood looking at the young woman, not knowing quite what to say.
"That surprises you, doesn't it?" the young woman asked.

"Well, to be honest, I'm puzzled by the request," said the Priest.

The young woman explained. "My grandmother once told me this story, and from there on out, I have always done so. I have also, always tried to pass along its message to those I love and those who are in need of encouragement."
"In all my years of attending socials and dinners, I always remember that when the dishes of the main course were being cleared, someone would inevitably lean over and say, 'Keep your fork.' It was my favorite part because I knew that something better was coming...like velvety chocolate cake or deep dish apple pie. Something wonderful, and with substance!' So, I just want people to see me there in that casket with a fork in my hand and I want them to wonder "What's with the fork?" Then I want you to tell them: "Keep your fork ..The best is yet to come."

The Priest's eyes welled up with tears of joy as he hugged the young woman good-bye. He knew this would be one of the last times he would see her before her death. But he also knew that the young woman had a better grasp of heaven than he did. She had a better grasp of what heaven would be like than many people twice her age, with twice as much experience and knowledge.

She KNEW that something better was coming.

At the funeral people were walking by the young woman's casket and they saw the cloak she was wearing and the fork placed in her right hand. Over and over, the Priest heard the question: "What's with the fork?" And over and over he smiled.

During his message, the Priest told the people of the conversation he had with the young woman shortly before she died. He also told them about the fork and about what it symbolized to her. The pastor told the people how he could not stop thinking about the fork and told them that they probably would not be able to stop thinking about it either.

He was right. So the next time you reach down for your fork, let it remind you ever so gently, that the best is yet to come. Friends are very rare jewels, indeed. They make you smile and encourage you to succeed. They lend an ear, they share a word of praise, and they always want to open their hearts to us. Show your friends how much you care. Remember to always be there for them, even when you need them more. For you never know when it may be their time to "Keep your fork."

Cherish the time you have, and the memories you share ... And keep your fork.

Author Unknown

 

Wednesday was my grandpa’s funeral.  I have heard of the story I just posted before but had totally forgotten about it.  Well, when g’pa was buried, he had a fork in his hand.  I love that!!  He knew there was something better yet to come!!

Love you G’pa and miss you so much!!

Thursday, October 6, 2011

My Grandpa

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My Grandpa was an amazing man!  He was a carpenter and a farmer.  He loved living out on the farm and working the land.  Sadly, last Friday he passed away.  We had the funeral for him yesterday.  It was a nice funeral.  He was loved by so many and will be missed by many as well.  The only good thing is now he is in Heaven and all the answers we have asked for many years have been revealed to him! 
Pleas continue to keep our family in your thoughts and prayers.  Thanks!

This was on his obituary, I loved the poem and thought I would share

My Farm

My farm to me is not just land where painted buildings stand… to me my farm is nothing less than all created loveliness… My farm is not where I must soil my hands in endless dreary toil, but where through seed and swelling pod, I’ve learned to walk and talk with God… My farm to me is not a place outmoded by a modern race… I like to think I just see less of evil, greed and selfishness…

My farm is not lonely for all day I hear my children shout and play… And here, when age comes free from fears, I’ll live again long, joyous years… My farm’s a haven—here dwells rest, security, and happiness… Whate’er befalls the world outside—here faith and hope and love abide… And so my farm is not just land where painted buildings stand… To me, my farm is nothing less than all of God’s hoarded loveliness…

Author Unknown

 

And a song that was sang at the service

Monday, August 16, 2010

This one's for you

Pin It Finally put Randy to rest Saturday.  It was a nice service besides the obvious reason.  It was still a very hard day.  It's always so sad that the death of someone is what brings people that have lost touch back together.  I guess it is actually a good thing if you think about it. 
Had a great time Saturday night with some 'old' friends!  Great time, catching up, remembering and sharing our stories of Randy.  Man did the boys have a bunch to tell, starting back when they were 14 years old. lol  The trouble those boys used to get into.  I can remember Randy and Shane telling me the same stories many times but hearing them Saturday as Mike and Shane told them, or acted them out, it was hilarious.  It was great times!!  It was like we were all back together just waiting on Randy to show up.  (he was ALWAYS late!)

Sure gonna miss that guy but we do have a lifetime of memories to share and keep alive! 

Shane & Mike
(wearing their do rags in memory of Randy)


The gang telling some great stories..


The acting out I was talking about.. (there were more but I will spare you all oh and yes those are tight rolls, can't even remember how that got started!)

Saturday, August 7, 2010

Arrrgggghhhhh!!!

Pin It So tired and drained.. doing the best we can to find some kind of living relative for Randy.  His mom has been gone for about 30 years, his dad for 10 and his sister for about 5 years, he only has a few relatives, cousins and a nephew, I think, but he hadn't talked to them for a long time..  The Medical Examiners office is still doing the autopsy but they are saying that if there isn't a family member to claim him then they can't release him to a funeral home for a burial or memorial or whatever.  Have a few friends searching for some of the relatives but it is so frustrating.  We were the closest thing he had to a family and they aren't even telling my husbands brother, whom Randy lived with for the past year much more than that.  I understand it takes some time for the autopsy and stuff but why would someone be hounding you for the body if they weren't 'family'!?!?!  Come on!!  We need and want to put him to rest somewhere!!  So tired physically and emotionally!

Thank you... (copying from other blog)

Pin It everyone for your kind words, blesses and prayers.  It has been a long day...  Not going to go into all the details but all we know is he fell in the bathroom and hit his head.  Not sure how he fell or if something caused him to fall... heart attack, aneurysm or what... they sent him to get an autopsy and we will just go from there.  No family so having to figure out how to do the funeral too.  He was only 34.. way to young....
Thanks again for all the prayers.. 
Me and Randy in '96


Randy & Shane after graduation in '94

Maddie showing Uncle Randy her art work '09

Friday, August 6, 2010

Won't be blogging for a bit

Pin It Just wanted to let you all know, I won't be on for a bit, just found out a VERY close friend of ours died.  We still don't know all the details

Sunday, June 27, 2010

Saturday was a sad day.....

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here at our house.  Our cat, Vaughn, had been a little sick the last month.  Just thought it might be the heat because he does lose weight during the summer time especially since he has been outside.  We kept checking him and trying to find a sore or anything in case he got in a fight or bitten by something else and we never found anything.  He didn't cry when you touched him anywhere and just seemed sad, not his normal perky self.  He's been like that before but then he is back to his normal self running around playing like he is a kitten.

Finally got him to come into the utility room this past week, he used to stay in there at night but lately hadn't wanted to come in, and he didn't move off his bench.  I had also noticed that there was nothing in the liter box.  Then a few days ago we noticed a big open sore that was seeping and a swollen spot by his ribs on his left side.  He just was not doing well at all.  Friday night he passed away.  We told Maddie Sat morning that Vaughn went to Heaven to be with God.  She knew he hadn't been feeling well so she kind of acted like she understood.  Then later on she asked where he was and I told her again, she said, "but  he's coming back from Heaven right?"  I told her, "no baby, he won't be coming back."  That's when it finally sunk in.  We cried for awhile and did our best to console her.  She keeps saying she wants Vaughn back and doesn't want him to go to Heaven.  Then she will say, "he didn't want to be friends anymore and that is why he left."

It is so hard to explain it for her right now.  She made a little note for him and put it in when we buried him.  She also asked if we could fly up to Heaven and see him, asked if he is alive in heaven and we told her yes.  Told her when you go to heaven there is no pain and no hurt and you are always happy and loved, that Vaughn is up there waiting until it is our turn to go to heaven.  

She is finally doing a little better but then will start with all the questions and keep saying she wants him back.  When she was praying tonight she said, "God I want Vaughn back"  So hard watching her deal with this and not knowing how to make it better for her.  We just keep telling her that is ok to feel sad and to miss him because we do too.  We loved him but now he isn't hurting anymore and is running and playing.

We got Vaughn around Feb of 1997, he was our first baby.  We have had him for a very long time and he will definitely be missed.  Maddie grew up with him and he used to be inside until he kept spaying in the same spot and we would clean it and finally get the smell out and then he would do it again.  He had been outside for about a year and half and it seemed like he was happier outside, running all over the place, climbing trees, getting birds and chasing bugs.  lol  There will never be another cat like him!

Here's some pics of Vaughn


I forgot that whenever you used BenGay he would attack you!  lol  He would rub and lick all over your shirt or wherever you put it on at. 



Here's little Mad and Vaughn, he was so good with her, let her carry her everywhere.  I have more but these are the only ones here on my laptop.


I love this one.  Looks like he is being all tough and growling but he's only yawning.  =)


and here's just a few more....


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